Explorations in Interpersonal Communication—For Personal Growth and Professional Success
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Welcome to LILTDY blogging.
Each of you needs to go to Blogger and create your own blog for this course. Call your blog anything you like, but be sure to include your name in the title so we know who you are. Also, be sure to send to me (krenochs@gmail.com) the url so I can post the links to your blogs and we can read and respond to each others blogs.
Each week you will have one assigned writing task related to our text, Leading at the Edge. These entries should be between 150 and 300 words.
But you can also make additional entries, and/or add links to anything that you find interesting and related to our class.
I’ll try to make my blog a good model of what is possible. To help you feel like we are all doing this together, I will do the same assignments as you.
I look forward to blogging with you.
Ken
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Mission Statement Example — Ken's
There are several sights out there that seem to be able to do it for you—all you have to do is enter the information. I tried this with the FranklinCovey site, but the result was very strange and I found it easier to write my own.
Writing mine was a great exercise as it forced me to think about my life and what I want from it. I hope this proves a good exercise for you as well (if you choose to do one).
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Antarctic Awakening—Ken's Personal Narrative Example
with this wild storm raging outside, radio not working, the ice shelf beneath us cracking and moaning, food and fuel running low, and the temperature a brutal 40 degrees below zero. Nope. By now we were supposed to be safely back at the station with no one but ourselves knowing that we had just climbed Mt. Erebus, Antarctica’s most famous mountain.
search and rescue (SAR) team, we had been given permission to do some winter training over the weekend. We said we would camp for one night, near the station. But our real goal was Erebus, an active volcano looming in the distance some 50 kilometers away. Over a series of weeks, we planned our climb in secret, meeting late at night and preparing our gear. With the help of a couple of snowmobiles, we felt we could get to the base of Erebus, then use skis to climb to the lower
reaches of the mountain, and up high use ice climbing gear to reach the summit. If all went well we would be back to the station in time for work on Monday, with no one knowing we had done the climb. Just shy of the summit, however, a huge storm came rolling down from the polar plateau, obscuring our vision and very nearly preventing us from getting back to our tent halfway down the mountain. There we hunkered down for the night, exhausted and cold, hoping the storm would clear by morning. When it hadn’t, we knew we had to try and get off the mountain anyway. With one person out in front trying to find our tracks from the day before, we slowly crept down the mountain. Eventually we met the frozen sea and set up camp. But it was a
restless night as the sea ice below us scraped against the rocky shore. When the storm hadn’t cleared the next morning we moved again, this time away from shore out on to the frozen sea where the ice was more stable. Now we started to worry whether we would get through the storm alive. The cold had sapped our strength and we were each suffering from frostbite: on our faces, fingers, toes, most of one of my
feet. Inside our tent, each exhaled breath condensed and froze on the inside walls, and each time we moved it came crashing down, soon enveloping us in frost. We had food and fuel for one more day, but if the storm lasted longer than that, our survival was in doubt. As foolish as we had been, or perhaps because of our foolishness, there was much that I learned from this venture. One thing I learned was to not be so selfish in my desires. I learned that I have responsibility to others, and that I cannot selfishly choose to climb a mountain because it is what I want to do. To my family, to my friends, and to my employer, I have obligations, and these obligations must override my personal desires. Another thing I learned is that I can get through the most challenging situations. The three of us worked together and well to keep ourselves alive. Even when it seemed we might die, we never lost faith in ourselves. When I have faced tough situations since then—in outdoor situations, or with my work, or in relationships—I know I have the strength to survive.
Week Seven Writing Assignment
I am thinking of a time in which I took a big risk that wasn't absolutely necessary, but it was for the benefit of others. When I have an extra moment I will share this with you on this blog, or I will just tell it in class.
Monday, May 16, 2011
Week Six Writing Assignment
This is because the ELP has been undergoing a great deal of conflict over the last couple of years due to differing views on how we should conduct a curricular reform.
While the majority of the instructors have supported a particular set of curricular reforms, a minority of senior instructors are against the reforms. Due to feelings of not feeling respected, of accusations that have been made against them, and due to a considerable amount of "groupness" (a sense of "us" vs. "them" that has magnified the importance of the issues), this group has had great difficulty accepting the reform.
So, what can I "take away" from this chapter on Shackleton?
First, we should have "Deal[t] with Anger in Small Doses" better than we did. Legitimate concerns were expressed by the dissenting group early on that were not addressed. Efforts should have been made to have had extensive discussion and debate over these concerns, and perhaps some compromises needed to have been made. Better yet, we needed more of a conflict positive environment in which open discussion might have led to some "win-win" negotiations. Instead, the minority group felt marginalized and disenfranchised which subsequently led to feelings of intense frustration and ultimately aggression.
Secondly, we needed to have "Engage[d] Dissidents." The reform dissidents were essentially ignored. What we needed to have done is brought the dissenting voices and members "into the tent." I have always loved this notion from Shackleton, that he took the members that might pose the greatest threat to his leadership and made them members of his tent. This way he could consult with them and keep them feeling listened to and wanted, and prevent them from joining forces with others. There is an expression in English, "Keep your enemies closer and your enemies closer" which is attributed to the great Chinese military commander Sun Tsu which expresses a similar concept. We needed to have done something like this by better including our dissidents in the reform process so that they could have more of a say and be part of the reform. Not doing so has led to a lot of problems.
My efforts over the last year have been to try and make up for the past. Giving the opposition an opportunity to express themselves has been one approach. We have had several open meetings in which opposition views could be presented and discussed. More recently, opposing members have been given roles in which they could contribute in ways in which they were uniquely suited. Whether these efforts will bear fruit is still unclear, but it is hoped that some of the division and distrust and anger can be reduced as we move forward.
Thursday, May 12, 2011
Our Sentences!
We will film again on Monday.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
The Superpower of Smiling
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Week Five Writing Assignment
There is much in these chapters that resonates with me and applies to my workplace, the ELP.
We are a fairly big team, with a great deal of diversity. We have native speakers of English and non-native. We have Japanese instructors, and non-Japanese. We have among the non-Japanese a wide range of nationalities: British, Australian, Scottish, Canadian, and many Americans. We are also divided by contract status: some instructors are on short-term contracts, others longer, and some on permanent contracts. We are also differentiated by gender.
While, for the most part, we do a wonderful job of working together to create a great program for all of you, the differences between, especially rank differences, cause a lot of subtle problems. I say subtle because in general, we are very equality focused. We all teach the same courses, teach the same amount as one another, share in all the non-teaching responsibilities that come with a program like this, each have a vote in decision making. It would seem that we are equal.
In reality, however, there are differences. Someone with a permanent contract can, in many ways, do as they like. They can speak up at meetings, choose to be against the directors, not show up at a retreat, etc. Someone for whom English is their native language has an advantage over a non-native speaker when debating issues. Someone from a more debate-oriented culture (e.g. British) has an advantage over someone from a harmony-focused culture (e.g. Japanese). Males, in general, have advantages over females. Those who go home to a family have advantages over those who go home to an apartment alone. People who drink alcohol have advantages over those who do not. Etc.
In psychology these differences are known as "rank." And what you need to know about rank is that those in a lower rank are much more aware of and sensitive to rank differences than those in a higher rank. So... the take-away point that I want you to remember is to be very sensitive and considerate of rank differences, especially those of lower rank than you. You will naturally be somewhat blind to these differences, but those below you will not be.
I work with several people in the ELP of similar rank to me, that have little or no sensitivity to the advantage that they have over others, and this causes a lot of unnecessary resentment. Don't let this be you.